In our quest for greater self-perfection we seem to be forgetting to appreciate what’s good about us. January is the prime month of the year when the majority of people crumble under the pressures of setting themselves New Year Resolutions. The resolutions themselves don’t seem like a bad thing on the surface; after all, it is just people trying to improve themselves. However, in my view — and not only mine — these resolutions focus heavily on the negative. Specifically, our most negative opinions about ourselves are usually based on some kind of social trend, and frequently involve unrealistic expectations. Bottom line: we create goals that are impossible to attain.
There is an idea that has been trending on Instagram and also receiving support from a few celebrities, including Matt Haig and Scarlett Moffatt. Matt Haig is an author of various mental health books including Reasons to Stay Alive, Notes on a Nervous Planet and most recently, The Truth Pixie — a book for children to help them through anxiety and grief, among other things. Haig is an amazing role model and and accomplished writer to look to, and his books are a great comfort. Lately, he has been emphasising to his followers that there is no need to set yourself strict goals or feel you have to change yourself, just because it’s the new year.
The new year is a made-up concept according to the Gregorian calendar, argues Haig. He’s right too. Time is a concept made by humans to help us organise the day more efficiently. With this in mind, your life doesn’t just reset when the new year starts; you don’t magically start with a clean slate. The bad things that happened last year still happened, and the good things that happened last year also still happened. Why give yourself a year to improve yourself? Why feel the need to improve yourself because of a made-up trend? If you want to improve yourself than kudos to you, but do it for you and not because of the time of year! Read more